Friday, September 21, 2007

I miss you

Right now I'm missing my like-minded friends. Friends who believe in the spirit of the law instead of the letter of the law. Friends who I can talk to about the latest Oprah episode about Autism and vaccines and not have to back up my own opinions and thoughts with hard core facts because they have the same opinions and beliefs as me and completely subscribe to the same parenting philosophy as me. I miss my friends who have home births and VBACS and no medical interventions, who view birth as a natural occurrence, one to be loved and enjoyed. I miss sitting around and talking about the amazingness of water birth and listening to similar wonderful birth stories filled with positiveness and no regrets. I miss seeing nursing toddlers, little 2 years olds running around asking for Nani or Nana or Nummies or Mommies or Nursies. I miss it!!
I miss my neurosis of not accepting anything less than perfect for my child's education being completely supported and backed up. I'm tired of having to explain every opinion I have, and when I cant put my thoughts into perfect logical sentences I'm sick of my opinion basically being dismissed instead of attempt at understanding. I'm not one to subscribe to the notion of agreeing to disagree. I still love having dialogue about things. I love the debate. Some people might view that as anger or argument but that's not the case. I cant recall ever arguing with a friend over a difference of opinion. I might be passionate about something but that doesn't necessarily mean I am fighting.
I'm emotionally drained from the past couple weeks. I miss my friends in Arizona. I throw my hands in the air, at least for the time being. I'm done with expressing my opinions (in person, you'll still hear them on my blog). I'm going to try to be that person who sits back and listens and if my opinion is coaxed out of me then I will make it brief. Lets see how long this lasts. I'm voting not too long. But I'm going to try. So, Steve get ready for an earful at the end of the day.
PS. a bit of info about myself, if a blog ever doesn't make sense or there are spelling errors or strange things in it, just know I never re-read my blogs, I type them and then publish. So, what you get is the ramblings from my head, you get what you get.


Sara said...

Don't forget laughing till you cry together over the stupid things your husbands do! I had so much fun visiting you last month, and I miss those conversations, too. Good luck keeping your mouth closed. ;-)

heather said...

hang in there, I'm sure there are like minded people in the WA them out. and I don't agree on everything but I love you like we did. For me, the fact that you and I think differently is one of my favorite parts of our friendship! I love that you help me to see things from alternative perspectives. Sameness can be boring sometimes.

Maybe there is another women out there who will value you for being a little off the grid.

April Lady said...

I've said it before and I'll say it again! Enough of this crap! Come home. I'm gonna' go cry now and hate Steve. As for the keep your opinion to yourself, I bet you last until the first time you have to be around people other than your husband. I'm sure I would last just as long. Although I was nice to idiots at my pediatrician's office who had no clue who I was or what to do with me and my crazy ideas of "delaying" my son's immunis. People are stupid. You are right! And educated!

LeAnn said...

Come home!! For the time being, it means I get more phone calls :)

I have a good life said...

I agree with you! It is hard to always "buck the system." I had LD natural. We don't take our kids to the medical doctor when they are sick. We use all organic and whole-foods. We haven't yet, but are researching and plan to homeschool. All of these things are so odd to my friends. I hear a lot of "Oh, the chiropractor's wife.." as if that excuses my silliness. Can't they see that my kids are so healthy? Even without ever having antibiotics! Thanks for letting me vent.

seagreenblues said...

Well, I was looking for this local candy store and everthing happens for a reason is my personal belief. I love your blog! I like your opinions...keep them coming!
Currently I live in Iowa, talk about bucking the system. I've been here all of 3 months and I began with the school,then a teacher,now a doctor to add to the list of people who think I'm off my rocker some days.
I love the posts in this blog,I wish we were neighbors. I have not many friends so if it is ok, can I join your group?
I have some questions if anyone can help it would be great.
1. Do we HAVE to immunize our kids? I have a doctor getting pretty upset about the fact that I am having second thoughts about vaccines. My son has Asperger's and things began to go downhill after the vaccines. I just want to be safe, but doctors tell me vaccines are the only way to be safe. I'm not so sure.
2. When did it become a must to teach your kids the same religious beliefs that the teacher has? Truly, I have lived in UT, AZ, NV, and now IA. My kids have schooled in all these states and if I had my way all schools would be like Zuni Hills Elementary in Peoria, Arizona. That has been the only place where we were accepted for our way of believing. Its not that odd to believe in reincarnation. I have had teachers telling me that I am harming my children by giving them imaginary beliefs. When did the tolerance and acceptance factor loose its grip on these types of teachers?
3. Can't have our kids removed from their classrooms to another teacher? Apparently, not.
My kids really like going to school here in Iowa and I am happy about that. But, why do the teachers even have these types of conversations with the kids at all? I just don't get it I guess. Oh, and about your passion for debating; I am the same. So its nice to meet another person who does not think that a differ of opinion means that you just had an argument. I am constantly having to explain myself, it stinks.