Wednesday, January 18, 2006

Make new friends but keep the old?

Is it completely necessary when you move out of state to make new friends? There are so many ways to keep in touch with the old...email, blogging, cell phone, text messaging, long distance, snail-mail, web-cams. Is it possible to continue the same friendships I have surrounded myself with over the past 10 years (more importantly, the past 5 years)? At least at this point, one week into my Seattle adventure, I dont quite feel the need for additional friendships.
One of my goals I made myself while living up here, choose my plate carefully. Do you understand? I felt that in Phoenix, I had too much on my plate. I was able to handle everything which I chose to participate in. Church callings, work, mothering, play dates, Birthing Tub business, La Leche League, Preschool, & my ritual TV watching of Nip/Tuck, The Office & LOST. But, honestly I would like more down time. More time to organize my home, scrapbook, just wander around my house aimlessly with no agenda and no where I need to be.
So, in my resolution to limit my activities I also want to choose my associations wisely. I feel like I had a small, wonderful. intimate group of friends. I had successfully eliminated the clutter people in my life. (if you are reading this blog, you are not a clutter friend!) So, now I have to start the process all over again. Or do I? Do I really need to acquire a new set of friends just because my oldest and dearest ones are 1500 miles away. At this point, my conclusive answer is "No, I do not." So, as I slowly and cautiously meet new people, I will tread very slowly and carefully. No clutter people and no replacements!

3 comments:

HLH said...

You must meet new people, afterall its no fun to go to the zoo alone with your own children- right?!

Think all the the friends may have to offer....new scrapbooking ideas, unlimited free baby sitting, great restaurant reviews, dessert companion for the late night trip to Denny's.

I know we'll always hold a special place in your heart (at least I hope!!), just because you meet new friends doesn't mean you let go of the old ones.

I so wish I were with you in Seattle. We could go explore and meet new friends together...Take the kids to the Pike Street Market this saturday and let "C" watch the fish throwers!

Joshua said...

Don't actively seek out new friends if you don't feel the need to. Just let them happen naturally. Use this time to try and relax. I know you won't be able to since you are unpacking, but try. Once you are settled in, if you start to become bored or lonely, then you can seek out new friends. But not too many. I share you with enough people as it is!

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